19 Jul '14

News The damage boarding schools do | Alex Renton

Three months ago, Alex Renton wrote about the abuse he suffered at boarding school. Among the hundreds of emails he received from men wanting to share their experiences, there were others from women wives, mothers, sisters - who have watched in horror as the men they love struggle with their demons. Here, he tells some of their storiesMarrying someone posh is an adventure. Sally Fraser laughs. The child of doctors, her school was a comprehensive in Bradford where poshness was not an issue. Her husband, whom she met at a university drama group, is different. So is his family. When we first met, his mothers chief concern was that, being common, I might get our children to use dummies, which she disapproved of. We werent even engaged!Frasers blog, Boarding School Action, campaigns to try to curtail elite Britains hallowed habit of sending its small children away to be looked after by strangers. Privileged abandonment, it has been called. Sally, 31, whose husband went to prep school at eight and then to Harrow, has had to become something of an expert in the complex psychiatry of early separation and childhood trauma. Continue reading...

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